Monday, November 26, 2018

IV- 5 Simple Strategies To Get The Most Out of A Coach - Strategy #4: Set Up The Coach for Success

A paradoxical strategy to acquiring success for your child's tennis.  After all, isn't it the coach's job to help your child to be the best player he/ she can be?

The answer is, it depends.  It depends on the strategy how you manage the team.  In my opinion, this is how the hierarchy to the success of your child's tennis journey looks like:
  1. Parents
  2. Coach
  3. Player (our child)
  4. Results
Results, positively or negatively, are a tease to building confidence and to developing a growth mindset.  It is a myth to think confidence depends on just by having positive results.   If that was true, there should be no problem for the number one ranked junior in the world to transition onto the pro tour.  I can tell you for certain that is not the case.  

On the contrary, it is shortsighted to judge the future of success based on the negative results that have not come into fruition early on.   And these same individuals through their perseverance of hard work made great strides when the physical and maturity aligned together.

Yet, I see parents spending way too much of their time going from one program to another or mix and match coaches and programs because their player is not producing the results that they're expecting.  A misplaced of energy and focus.

Players are responsible for their own growth: mental, emotional, physical, and tennis skills.  They should be made accountable for their tennis journey.  They need to learn to go through all the unpleasantries of obstacles and pain in order to come out ahead at the end of the fight.  However, the player is only as good as what they are taught and learned from the coach.  

The coach understandably is the expert who has the expertise in tennis development.  They are the tennis doctor.  They prescribe drills and plans as they see fit to help the player reach their goal.  

But what good is it to enroll your player in a program and working with a coach if you don't trust them?  You are the one who hired them, right?  Then, you must take the leadership role just as a business manager would.  

You cannot possibly run a successful business if you have to do everything yourself: a one man/ woman show.  You need helpers.  The coaches are your helpers.  They are your helpers in helping your child to be the best version of him/ herself.  

When coaches feel they are well taken care of and that you care about their well being and that you have their back.    Let me tell you.  There is nothing this coach will not do for your child.  

“If you do what you’ve always done, you’ll get what you’ve always gotten.” Anthony Robbins

Good luck this week.
Yours Truly...

See other strategies here to the 5 Simple Strategies To Get The Most Out of A Coach.

Monday, November 19, 2018

III - 5 Simple Strategies To Get The Most Out of A Coach - Strategy #3: Attitude Is A Skill

By Allistair McCaw

One of the questions that get circulated and speculated often is whether a champion is born or is learned.  While there are contradicting opinions, there lies an undeniable agreement by all regardless of nature or nurture is a good ATTITUDE.  A positive ATTITUDE.

Champions understand the importance of having a good attitude and work on it every single day.  They understand it is a skill to be practiced and sharpened just like all their tennis skills.

Staying positive, having a good attitude is important in our daily life.  It gives us hope and optimism and opportunities.  Just like going to the gym is a choice, so is building a good attitude. It is a skill that can be learned.  It is available to everyone if you want it. 

“I firmly believe that the only disability in life is a bad attitude.” - Schott Hamilton

Most kids don't have that skill.  They don't consciously want to practice building a good attitude because it is hard work.  The hard work of controlling their emotions when things are not going their way.  The hard work of figuring things out when they are down.  The hard work of what if I tried but still lose.  The hard work of having to be courageous when they are nervous.  They don't understand by having this skill, it can help turn their hard days into opportunities and victories. 

Since having a good attitude is crucial to the success in life and that it is a choice, it makes sense to encourage our kids to practice building this awesome skill we call ATTITUDE, don't you think?

Coaches will help those who help themselves.  They will go beyond their call of duty for your child, if he/ she works on building a good attitude.

Good luck this week.  

Yours Truly...

See other strategies here to the 5 Simple Strategies To Get The Most Out of A Coach:

Monday, November 12, 2018

II. 5 Simple Strategies To Get The Most Out of A Coach - Strategy #2: Training Environment

Welcome back!  In this post, we will cover Strategy #2 of the 5 Simple Strategies To Get The Most Out of A Coach.  Here is a link to Strategy #1 for easy referencing.

Tennis by and large is an individual sport.  A self-centered sport.  A family sport.  A sport that is considered by scientists and physicians all over the world to bring the most health benefits.  A sport that is often used by coaches to teach life lessons.  A sport that can provide excellent academic and build massive network opportunities.  And yes, a sport that can generate a very, very large payday for the elite.

Indeed tennis is a magnificent sport.  It is worth every ounce of effort and energy to protect and to nurture the environment to allow the same benefits and opportunities to those interested to play in this sport.

Every parent seeks a healthy and productive environment for their child to grow.  In order to make that happen, it would need every individual to contribute to the training field.  You can't just keep taking from the environment and expect it to be healthy and productive.  It is not a self-generating machine.  

More often than not, I see players attend their training sessions carrying the weight from their day.  Maybe they're tired from a lack of sleep having to finish up their school project or studying for their tests.  Or maybe physically they're exhausted from all the training.  Or maybe they feel overwhelmed because they can't keep up with the level.  Or they're frustrated because they feel rusty recovering from an injury.  Or they're feeling vulnerable because they lost their confidence.

“Don’t let what you can’t do interfere with what you can do.” - John Wooden

The reasons may vary but one thing is for sure.  If everyone attends their practice with their negative emotions thus negative attitude, they're sucking the life out of the training environment.  There is only so much coaches can do to pump up the player, to help the player out of their mental funk.  It is the responsibility of each player to add to their training atmosphere with the right mindset, the positive attitude, the work ethic, the perseverance, the resiliency, no matter how hard their day was.

The next time you check in with your child to see how their day went, pay close attention to how they sound.  If negative emotions are detected try to find solutions together what they will do differently, if they were to redo their day.  In essence, you are helping them to build a better version of themself from the previous day.  More often than not, they will approach the next training session with more optimism which in turn will add to their training environment.  And that puts you on the driver's seat because you are being proactive in making the training ground healthy for your kid.

Coaches value effort from players who take pride in giving their all day in and day out.

Good luck this week.  Will see you at my next post - Strategy #3: Attitude Is A Skill

Yours Truly...

Monday, November 5, 2018

I. 5 Simple Strategies To Get The Most Out of A Coach - Strategy #1: Player Accountability

Have you ever had this feeling that your child is not receiving the attention that he/she is not getting in a class or a program?  Or that your child constantly complains that coach doesn't care about him/her?  Or that the coach only cares about a certain player?
OK, I'm not going to lie.  Yes, favoritism does exist.  It is in every sport and in non-sport events aka life.  Favoritism exists everywhere in the world.  The question is not IF there is favoritism but to explore strategies to help put your child on the pedestal.
Here is the good news.  There are things that you can do to put you in the driver's seat.  The reason I say "you" is because I have seen the mistakes parents made in their method of finding solutions for this predicament.  There are more productive ways which I am going to share with you over the next several weeks with one strategy per week.

There are 5 simple strategies that when implemented regularly is a life-changing experience for your child in his/her tennis journey.  These strategies are the results accumulated from my 40 plus years experience in tennis.  

"Start where you are.  Use what you have.  Do what you can." - Arthur Ashe

Strategy #1 - Player Accountability

At the beginning of the player/coach relationship, emotions are high with excitement.  The program is great.  Coach is a miracle worker.  Kid is smiling from ear to ear.  The line of communication is usually free-flowing.  As time goes on though, when the "honeymoon" phase fades aways, judging and criticisms creep in: the coach was mean to me today; or the coach didn't help me today; or I had to play with the little kids; or I was put on the lowest court today...

Whether the coach is going to take your child wholeheartedly going the extra mile OR keeping a distance just doing their job, depends on how you, the parent, react when your child gives you the report from his/her perception.  It is important to remember that the recalling of their day is based on their perception.  Whether it was accurate or dramatized, it's irrelevant.  What's important here is how you react.

If you guide your child with strengths and grit to overcome obstacles they will learn to fight to be at their rightful place because mom and dad are not fighting their battles for them.  You are helping them to be accountable for their own effort in their training.  

Coaches value strength and the player's willingness to fight for their rights.  It takes courage and strength to take responsibility for one's action.  

Good luck this week.  Will see you at my next post - Strategy #2: The Training Environment

Yours Truly...