Monday, January 28, 2019

Learn How To Raise Performance With This...




Keeping teaching simple doesn't mean without quality, without expectations.  In fact, it takes a lot of skills to make teaching look simple, to make it look easy.  Just as it takes a lot of skills to make tennis look simple, to make it look easy.  The timing, the rhythm, the movement, the poise. 

Take Roger Federer for example, doesn't he make tennis look simple?  Easy?  It takes thousands of hours of practice to master the skills.  And thousands of hours to build the mental and physical strengths.   The work cannot be skipped.  Learning to play with pressure cannot be skipped.  There is simply no short cut to success.

Kids playing up in tournaments when they have not mastered their age group is skipping the process to build their mental and emotional strengths.  Losing to a younger player might be embarrasing .  Yes, I get it!  Making a tough match against a much lesser player is hard to watch.  Yes, I get it!  So is getting our kids to clean their room.  We still try :-).

If you want to help your kid to be a better competitor keep the pressure on so they can learn to handle it.  Give them the opportunity to build their mental and emotional strength.  Keep them in their age division unless they've outperformed it consistently.  Even then, tread lightly with playing up. 

Competing well is about managing the nerves when feeling the pressure.  It's not about bragging rights.  Keep the pressure on, moms and dads.

Yours Truly....
Patricia


Monday, January 21, 2019

Customize to Circumstance for Success





As in every sport at any level and at any age, there are peaks and valleys throughout the year.  How we come out the other side victoriously largely depends on the determination to self improve and the perception we give it.
When performers are at their peak, everything seems to flow effortlessly.  Smooth and easy.  But in the face of mental challenges, everything touched goes to dust.  The world looks gloomy.  Optimism is out the window.   Nothing is enjoyable.  And often times, the mental barriers are self-induced.  
Take pressure for example.   We all know pressure is self-induced.  It's a figment of one's imagination.  The one pressure that I see often in juniors is when playing against a younger opponent.  Somehow, somewhere, the older player goes into this sheer terror in their mind and ends up playing their worst tennis.
I recently had this conversation with a player.  Despite having made great strides in her tennis development, she felt a lot of anxieties against her next younger opponent.  So, I asked her this question:  What is heavier, one pound of bricks or one pound of feathers?  Looking at me like I just grew horns on my head, she replied with absolute confidence; bricks.  Chuckling, I told her it was equal.   It doesn't matter what you put on that scale, one pound is one pound.  Her younger opponent has the same opportunity to create one pound of pressure just as she has the opportunity to create one pound of pressure.  Therefore, the one pound of pressure is irrelevant.  The pressure in itself is irrelevant to her tennis.  So, I rephrased my question: who has more pressure now?  The one pound of pressure from her younger opponent or the one pound of pressure from her, the older one?  With renewed assurance, she played a solid match.  Did what she had to do and moved on.  Lesson learned.
What amazes me was that this child is super smart academically but the stress of competing against a younger opponent fogged her judgment and inflicted an imaginary problem.  While the question I asked her was simple, some time simple is better.
The route to performing well encounters a lot of twists and turns.  It is not a linear path.  We must be able to personalize each situation as it comes with simplicity.  The simpler, the better.
Best of luck this week.
Yours Truly,
Patricia

Monday, January 14, 2019

Help your kid to do this to overcome their fear


Connect the Dots


It's time.  It's time to start over for you and your tennis superstar.   They've worked hard in their preparations during the offseason:
  • faster
  • fitter
  • stronger
  • bigger serves
  • new skills
  • more aggressive
  • better defense
  • improved on turning defense into offense
  • learned some playing patterns
  • understanding the geometry of the court
  • learned to play points smarter
Your tennis star is feeling great and ready to return to competition with renewed confidence and determination.  That is until their stress level is tested.  That is where we usually see a big gap between the training and competition level.  With stress, lurking in the corner is fear.   Fear brings doubt.  Doubt attacks confidence.  

And when fear imposes itself on the player?  Well, you've seen how your child performed under that spell.  Yeah, it is tough to watch.  I'm not going to lie.  Been there myself as a player and as a parent/coach.

The good news is there is one thing that you can do to help your child to put fear in its place.  You can help them to connect the dots from their training to competition.

If you consistently hold your child accountable to the things that are within their control, they build the habit of assessing the journey, not just the outcome of a match.  Their confidence will not be shaken up by the end result.  When they are certain with what they are supposed to achieve, there will be no doubt.  When there is nothing to doubt about, fear will be locked away.




Yours Truly...
Patricia



Monday, January 7, 2019

Two Little Words But Oh So Powerful

As an elite tennis player, you don't really step away from competition for long.  But there is something about the beginning of a new year that is exciting and makes us want to reset.  To do better.  To have a better version of ourselves.  Starting from scratch. 
With the new year underway, it is as good a time as any to help our kids build some new habits.  The habit of saying I CAN.  Two simple words yet so powerful that when ingrained in the mind, they can weather the storm with strength and determination to push forward.
So, how long does it take to build a new habit?  According to Dr. Maxwell Maltz, on his discovery with his patients after their surgery, it takes a minimum of 21 days.  But according to Phillipa Lally, a health psychology researcher at University College London, her team found on average it takes 66 days.  And me, I say it takes as long as the individual needs.  It's not a race.  It's a life serving habit that is worth keeping it for a long time which will need revisiting periodically.
Here are three things to help build the I CAN habit:
1. Be patient.  To replace a habit is a lot harder than starting new ones.   Start small and be persistent.
2. Don't try to be perfect.  If your child slips to old habits once or twice, it's not the end of the world.  Get back on track and keep going.  Baby steps.
3. Building good habits are a process.  It takes work.  Hard and deliberate work every day.  It's a process, not an event.
Yours Truly...
Patricia